Sundry Observations

Sundry, such a curious word to my ears. Growing up we used the word a-sundry meaning exactly the same thing. However, most of my word processing programs flag the word asundry as unknown or misspelled (as it did when I wrote it just now). So I bow to the wisdom of the all knowing spell-checking programmer and adapt. 

Speaking of adapting, I think I'm coming full circle. I began this blog with the intent of denying women orgasms for long stretches of time. The longer the better actually, so I began with a probationary period of 30 days. I chose that time intentionally because in a month a lady goes through most of the typical things life will throw her way while soaking her panties: her period, bad hair days, fatigue, frustration, family issues, very horny days, and good old fashioned real life (which has the built in advantage of evening out high arousal). Skills learned during these 4+ weeks would equip her how to deal with longer term arousal and frustration should she desire to try. For most it worked very well. And far from being a one-size-fits-all approach, as I erroneously thought at one time, it provided a real test of one's desire and ability to deal with competing forces. It taught limits and goals very well. Many women learned that long term was not for them, but 30 days enabled them to determine what their limits were. 

During the time when my minimum first term was 30 days, I got very consistent subjects interested in trying. Many were experienced in kinky games, well educated, almost all were stable, articulate, and mature. Not all went on to longer terms. Many lasted only one term before realizing this wasn't a kink for them, at least not as I applied it or at that time (many have come back for a second try).

Then I began toying with the idea of intensity versus duration. While I still like the idea, and know that I can't keep a girl denied her sweetest pleasure for 30 days (or longer) with the same intensity as I can a girl for the weekend, I found that the shorter term candidates weren't the same as the longer term ones, and certainly not as satisfying to me. This was not at difference in quality as much as a difference in kind. This was never a character issue, nor could it ever be attributed to any weakness or fault in them at all. It was more akin to the analogy I've used here for a long time between that of the sprinter versus a marathoner. Both have natural talents and abilities. Both are very fun in their own way. But they often have a very different temperaments and expectations - and they are truly different. 

Now this brings up a side topic which I think I have covered before, but several ladies insist that I have not done so sufficiently, namely, mentioning what turns me on - or gets me off. Let me be very clear about this now. Teasing a woman to within a stroke of orgasm, time and time again over the course of an evening, then locking her into denial for weeks with repeated weekly teases, hardens my knob and makes me gush milky curds of cum like nothing else I've ever fantasized or experienced. Make no mistake, I do this to have hard orgasms myself, and the quivering, writhing, wet ladies enduring this at my hand (and cruel mind) provide exactly that pleasure for me. But I digress. Just another observation I suppose.

Another thing jumped off the stats when I looked at them rationally. When girls came to me expecting to be subjected to longer terms of OD, they tended to be older and, as mentioned above, far more mature. As I ventured more into shorter terms, the participants tended to be much younger and far more transient. Many, in some cases, were just days beyond their 18th birthdays. They were smoking hot in their own ways; don't think I didn't enjoy them too, but the ladies beyond 30 proved to be the most stable and able to handle the strain a throbbing crotch can place on a working woman. This is a terrible over generalization, but you get the point. I've certainly had well educated, articulate women last only 3 days before disappearing, never to be seen again. And I had TSD begin at 18 and not cum until she was over 20. But she proved the exception, not the rule. Again, not making any judgement here, just observations.  

So, what am I trying to say? Well, that all depends I suppose. I wanted to state emphatically what gets me off in case that wasn't obvious from past posts. Second, to clearly announce that I am moving back in the direction of the longer term female orgasm denial. I think this also prepares the candidates for what to expect.  

A writer on a male denial site has claimed that if a guy isn't committed to 6 months (at least eventually), he isn't serious about denial. While I wonder if the writer has many takers at that ambitious rate, I would like to re-emphasize, that I think if a girl isn't willing to try at least an initial 30 days of teasing and denial then she will never really know if she's cut out for OD or not. If she loves her first attempt, the sky's the limit. However, any initial term significantly less than that isn't a real indicator of what the kink is all about. One can learn about the intensity in mere hours of teasing, but it takes weeks to learn about and how to endure the frustration of a perpetual ache. It's not called training for nothing. 

So, if you've ever wondered if female orgasm denial is for you, and you will commit to a one time 30 day cycle, you can find out. That's not to say that every term will be that long (or that short), but it's a reasonable term to test your limits. In my experience, a month of teasing and denial has proven effective for ladies from 18 to 60. Give it some thought. All you have to lose is your orgasm. *wicked grin*